Hi, I like the metaphor of preparing for a cyclone. It's been 17 years since my son died. Your body remembers the emotional damage and even before you're mentally or physically aware of it, you're in that preparation stage. It always surprised me how long it took me to realize the sadness and physical unease was connected to my son's death that was still months away.
One other thing I'll add is that we all grieve differently. My husband and I grieve almost opposite. We understood that we had to respect the other's process even if we didn't agree with it. Communication and being open with our other son was important--it took us some time to figure that out as well.
Grace, patience, and forgiveness.
Thank you for writing about what's so hard to live. 💜
Janine, thank you for your comments. I agree with your observations about your family. It's fascinating how differently we can react within the same family unit to particular anniversaries. While the underlying drivers might be similar, the way those feelings manifest and present themselves on the surface can be quite distinct.
Hi, I like the metaphor of preparing for a cyclone. It's been 17 years since my son died. Your body remembers the emotional damage and even before you're mentally or physically aware of it, you're in that preparation stage. It always surprised me how long it took me to realize the sadness and physical unease was connected to my son's death that was still months away.
One other thing I'll add is that we all grieve differently. My husband and I grieve almost opposite. We understood that we had to respect the other's process even if we didn't agree with it. Communication and being open with our other son was important--it took us some time to figure that out as well.
Grace, patience, and forgiveness.
Thank you for writing about what's so hard to live. 💜
David Murray
2m
Janine, thank you for your comments. I agree with your observations about your family. It's fascinating how differently we can react within the same family unit to particular anniversaries. While the underlying drivers might be similar, the way those feelings manifest and present themselves on the surface can be quite distinct.