Try to Talk to Someone at This Time of Year
In the article When You Cannot Call Anyone Else, I wrote about a phone volunteer working with The Compassionate Friends Queensland (TCFQ), Jen Reading. Jen originally gave me ten things she had learnt from taking numerous phone calls from people in the acute stages of grief. I only included five in that article.
I have decided toshare the rest of Jen’s list in the middle of Christmas period. I am doing this because I am fully aware how difficult this time of year can be. This post offers me the opportunity to remind to anyone who happens to suffering to a point they feel is becoming unbearable, please talk to someone.
A conversation can offer a small piece of objectivity that may get you through the next week. The festive season rolls in like a social storm of mild insanity, hits a crescendo over Christmas and by New Years morning it has start to calm down.
Here is the other five things. If you are feeling any of the below so will lots of other people in a similar situation. Like the Festive Season Storm it will pass and so these feelings will diminish.
Take care and I look forward to posting more in the New Year.
In the article When You Cannot Call Anyone Else, I wrote about a phone volunteer working with The Compassionate Friends Queensland (TCFQ), Jen Reading. Jen originally gave me ten things she had learnt from taking numerous phone calls from people in the acute stages of grief. I only included five in that article.
I have decided to share the rest of Jen’s list in the middle of the Christmas period. I am doing this because I am fully aware of how difficult this time of year can be. This post offers me the opportunity to remind anyone who happens to be suffering to a point they feel is becoming unbearable to please talk to someone.
A conversation can offer a small piece of objectivity that may get you through the next week. The festive season rolls in like a social storm of mild insanity, hits a crescendo over Christmas, and by New Year's morning, it has started to calm down.
Five more things I have learnt from supporting grieving people - Jen Reading
The impact on our body is physical as well as mental.
It is a continuous feeling of isolation. Experiences likened to being in a glass tunnel, the world swimming around you but you are unable to communicate with it.
Some have a sense of relief. Relationships may have been extreme with their child. They now feel guilty for feeling this.
Learning that to continue to live and function does not mean that we are forgetting our children or that we are no longer sad or in pain. We need to replan our future. This is not as simple as it sounds as life will never be as before.
We live our life in before and after mode. Everything is measured on that day.
If you are feeling any of the above, know that you are not alone. Many other people in similar situations are experiencing the same emotions. Like the Festive Season Storm, these feelings will pass and diminish.
Take care and I look forward to posting more in the New Year.
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